Be seen...

Every woman wants to be noticed.  Every woman wants to be desired. Every woman wants to be loved. But we have to love ourselves first. Being a big woman my entire life, I decided as a teenager never to apologize for my size. That meant loving myself, despite my weight. That meant, never allowing people to treat me as a second-class citizen. That meant, never allowing stereotypes of fat people to define my existence. That meant, finally, never allowing myself to fade into the background.  Whether that be having the crudest, foulest, loudest mouth in the room, asserting my intelligence and acknowledging my smart, or allowing my sexy to show itself subtly, I am not afraid to be noticed.  Again, as I move closer and closer to 40, my don't give a damn attitude seems to be showcasing herself even more.  I never thought that I could be more confident, self-assured, conceited (lol), and assertive than I have been in the past, but I am truly feeling myself.  And no... I won't apologize for that.


Black thought...

The outfits in this post symbolize how I have been feeling as of late.  I have been in "transition" as I truly begin to think about my purpose, and my passion.  As the big 4-0 approaches, I feel so clear now, and I welcome my forties.  This is truly the best time of my life.  I feel both regal and in control, but playful and flirty at the same time.  This dress is perhaps the most perfect item in my closet right now.  It's sleek, simple, comfy, and versatile. Without a lot of fuss, it is still a standout.  Like me...


Think Pink...

Lime Crime Velvetine in Utopia

NARS Funny Face

MAC Girl About Town

MAC Scandalicious (Limited Edition *sold out)

MAC All Fired Up

Melt Cosmetics Shady Lady

Sephora Luster Matte in Magenta
So, everyone is talking about wine-colored lips and nails, turtlenecks, and boots and tights, and I'm still fighting almost ninety degree weather here.  Now, I love Autumn as much as the next person, but honestly, if you are spotted wearing suede patchwork culottes with a leather moto jacket in this heat and humidity, you will garner strange looks. While I am looking forward to the clothing that cooler temperatures usher in, I am a realist.  So I'm still thinking pink.  Pink is the perfect transitional color for September. It acts like the innocent little sister of Red, and is the sweetheart stepdaughter to naughty stepmom, Wine. And it looks good on everyone. Everyone. Anddddddddd, these pictures allow you to see what these colors look like on dark-skin. Not Frieda Pinto dark (magazines always use her as their "dark" model), but MY DARK. You're welcome my darker-hued sisters. 


God Help the Child... Dressed in All-White

"You should always wear white, Bride. Only white and all white all the time."
"Not only because of your name, but because of what it does to your licorice skin."
"If you must have a drop of color, limit it to shoes and purses, but I'd keep both black when white simply won't do"

Lines from Toni Morrison's newest novel, God Help the Child.  The protagonist, Bride, attempts to make her dark skin more palatable to everyone by wearing white.  She was described by her own mother as being " black she scared me....midnight black, Sudanese black."  After Bride heeds a colleagues advice to wear white only, she almost instantly becomes "exotic" and "striking", shedding the negativity that plagued descriptions of her skin previously.  Does the color white make black skin more acceptable?  Perhaps this is the reason black people love to throw parties where the required attire is all-white?  Does white clothing, even subconsciously, make us feel more accepted?  Of course, we know the word associations that "white" connotes - purity, heaven, cleanliness, innocence, divinity, etc.  Rapper Dej Loaf even raps in her mega-hit, Try Me, "rock that all-white when I'm feeling Godly."  So while I cannot know for sure the minds of everyone Black person in the universe, I know that wearing all-white has always made me feel like I was special.  There is definitely not enough space on this post for me to attempt to delve into the psyche of black people wearing white clothing.

Has your perception of me changed? Does the all-white make me different?
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