Think Pink...

Lime Crime Velvetine in Utopia

NARS Funny Face

MAC Girl About Town

MAC Scandalicious (Limited Edition *sold out)

MAC All Fired Up

Melt Cosmetics Shady Lady

Sephora Luster Matte in Magenta
So, everyone is talking about wine-colored lips and nails, turtlenecks, and boots and tights, and I'm still fighting almost ninety degree weather here.  Now, I love Autumn as much as the next person, but honestly, if you are spotted wearing suede patchwork culottes with a leather moto jacket in this heat and humidity, you will garner strange looks. While I am looking forward to the clothing that cooler temperatures usher in, I am a realist.  So I'm still thinking pink.  Pink is the perfect transitional color for September. It acts like the innocent little sister of Red, and is the sweetheart stepdaughter to naughty stepmom, Wine. And it looks good on everyone. Everyone. Anddddddddd, these pictures allow you to see what these colors look like on dark-skin. Not Frieda Pinto dark (magazines always use her as their "dark" model), but MY DARK. You're welcome my darker-hued sisters. 


God Help the Child... Dressed in All-White

"You should always wear white, Bride. Only white and all white all the time."
"Not only because of your name, but because of what it does to your licorice skin."
"If you must have a drop of color, limit it to shoes and purses, but I'd keep both black when white simply won't do"

Lines from Toni Morrison's newest novel, God Help the Child.  The protagonist, Bride, attempts to make her dark skin more palatable to everyone by wearing white.  She was described by her own mother as being " black she scared me....midnight black, Sudanese black."  After Bride heeds a colleagues advice to wear white only, she almost instantly becomes "exotic" and "striking", shedding the negativity that plagued descriptions of her skin previously.  Does the color white make black skin more acceptable?  Perhaps this is the reason black people love to throw parties where the required attire is all-white?  Does white clothing, even subconsciously, make us feel more accepted?  Of course, we know the word associations that "white" connotes - purity, heaven, cleanliness, innocence, divinity, etc.  Rapper Dej Loaf even raps in her mega-hit, Try Me, "rock that all-white when I'm feeling Godly."  So while I cannot know for sure the minds of everyone Black person in the universe, I know that wearing all-white has always made me feel like I was special.  There is definitely not enough space on this post for me to attempt to delve into the psyche of black people wearing white clothing.

Has your perception of me changed? Does the all-white make me different?


"Ain't nobody got time for no fundamental shifts..."

Ouch... In a shot heard round the world, Mary Jane Patterson spoke these words to new beau, Sheldon.  As you probably already know, on the Season 2 finale that aired on Tuesday, April 14th, Mary Jane had "the conversation" with her "boyfriend" Sheldon, and listened as he tried to encourage her to take the road less traveled to coupledom.  While Sheldon tried to convince Mary Jane that a monogamous relationship does not necessarily equal cohabitation, Mary Jane tried to convince herself that she was not crazy and delusional for thinking that this relationship could have been something.  But as Mary Jane fought back (with the applause of women across the world no doubt resonating in her ear) I wondered.  What is wrong with marriage without cohabitation?  Is it necessary for married couples to actually live together?  Is it time for women, especially Black women to consider a "fundamental shift"?

Traditionally, married people are expected to live together right?  "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage" yada, yada, yada.  But what if women are limiting their options in a partner by refusing to make a "fundamental shift"?  If we are to believe the statistics that state that only 42-45% of Black women in America are married, a "fundamental shift" in the way we view relationships, marriage, monogamy, and cohabitation is imperative.  Disclosure:  I married when I was 35 years old.  Me and my spouse are both educated, hold graduate/postgraduate degrees, and are professionals in our careers.  We were fiercely in love when we got married and knew that we could not live another day without the other.  But the day after the wedding, we went to our respective homes and stayed separate for over a year after that. We live together now, but living together was NEVER the plan for us.  And if I was to tell the truth, living apart in the early part of our marriage was blissful.  We still behaved like children holding the phone to our ears, listening to the other snore, creating a rhythm that still defines our sleep today.  We had "date" nights, on which I would "spend the night" as if it was our first date and leave early in the morning lest I be seen participating in a walk of shame.  We cherished the time we had together, and seemingly, cherished each other a little bit more then.

On the last episode of "Being Mary Jane" Sheldon rationalized to Mary Jane " I'm over 50 years old and I like things the way I like them", but she was not receptive at all.  But as a professional woman, nearing 40 years old, with her own home, and an ever-consuming career, she also likes things the way she likes them, right?  As women are waiting longer and longer to settle down and get married, the flexibility that made us so willing to compromise in our twenties has been replaced by wisdom, experience, heartbreak and living.  We know how we like our coffee, we know our preference in wine, we have grown-up clothes in our closets, and we have one dish that has become our specialty. So, you fall in love and have to compromise what has worked for so long?  Why?  Although women have made "fundamental shifts" in the method they choose to conceive a child, the age they decide to become mothers, and the choice to delay marriage and motherhood to chase a career, yet we still maintain the same ideology about marriage and cohabitation?  A "fundamental shift" is not needed.  A reality check is, though.

Your thoughts? Please leave them below.


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