Accessories and Big Girls: A friendship made in heaven...

The proliferation of actual plus size fashion options are a very recent thing.  And I would even argue that the options that are available aren't even that great, yet and still, they are options.  But this big girl here would have been dead if she had waited for the plus size fashion industry to catch up with the straight size fashion industry before trying to establish my own distinctive style.  I was fat before fat was "cute"; before fat was "okay" and before all of the body positivity movements that exist today. And I'm good!  Trust me, I am.  I have ALWAYS been limited in my clothing options, but accessories have always been the thing that set me apart from others.  I have worn "statement jewelry" before it was trendy; been flaunting my African heritage before it was in; and been wearing bangles, baubles, and big pieces while everyone else was wearing diamond studs and tennis bracelets.

My fashion sense is usually limited to a few colors, prints, and silhouettes that I favor, but accessories have always made my ensembles next level.  Here, the baubles that I have amassed over the past few months, and guess what?  They are all from Buffalo Exchange so you know they were super, duper, inexpensive!  So while building a wardrobe, make sure you curate an accessories "wardrobe" that complements your style and speak volumes about you.  Be well...

 *All necklaces are from Buffalo Exchange, a buy-sell-trade store that sells new and gently used fashion items.


Throw Back Thursday.... MAC's Film Noir

The 1990s was my shit... I mean really.  The early 1990s to be more specific. (The late 1990s brought the demise of my first "real" relationship, motherhood, an extra-long stint in undergrad that would spill into the next decade, yada, yada, yada...)  I was introduced to MAC cosmetics and the ubiquitous lipstick shade, Film Noir in high school.  A self-professed "natural girl", after purchasing what is arguably the absolutely most perfect color that MAC may have ever created, you would rarely see me without this shade on my lips. A must have for absolutely everyone, this color transcended race, color, and class.  MAC cosmetics was my first foray into make-up, when my version of being "made-up" included getting my eyebrows arched, and wearing Film Noir. As life seems to become more and more complicated, this lipstick remains a mainstay in my lipstick collection. Admittedly, I rarely wear this color, opting to wear more brights.  But when I do, nostalgia hits me hard. Ahhhhh.... a return to a simpler, less complicated time.  Although time waits for no one, perhaps wearing Film Noir might help me get "that old thing back." We'll see.


New Year, New Dreams... 2016 Dreamer's Notebook

Happy New Year!  Time for resolutions, right?  You may remember that I am not a huge fan of resolutions (here).  I'm not opposed to them, I just don't think they are specific enough to make a difference in someone's life.  Now I AM a huge fan of having dreams and setting goals that move you toward achieving those dreams!  It may seem cheesy, but the new year brings with it a new energy.  It's impossible to ignore the sense of renewal that permeates the air.  With so many people looking to the new year to provide them the restart we all need, the new year inevitably causes people to assess the previous year, and set new goals for the upcoming year.

I am no different.  There are a few goals that I set last year and I achieved most of them, but 2015 is in the past and instead of dwelling on those moments, I prefer to look ahead and reset my goals for 2016.  In comes the most perfect notebook/planner/journal that a woman could ask for.  I found this planner on Etsy, while browsing the 2016 day planners/calendar offerings. After coming across thousands, I knew this one was the one for me.

I love that this is written in plain, accessible, relatable language. Sometimes, in our efforts to be "enlightened", the message can become lost in the use of words and concepts that don't play a part in our everyday lives.  This book allows you to "get it" at a very base level.

Who hasn't made this mistake? It's hard to develop new goals for a new year without reflecting on the goals you achieved, and didn't achieve, the year prior. This planner helps you to think ahead, but also allows for reflection of the things that were not useful to you in the previous year. Those things we want to "leave behind".

I usually have three journals - one for my finances, one for Girls of Plenty, and one for the rest of the things I have going on!  This planner integrates them all into one.  Life is not compartmentalized, and neither should your dreams and goals be.  The planner is set-up to force you to work on your financial goals and your work goals, but also to work on your passion.
After purchasing the planner and doing some digging around, I found the creator of this "Dreamer's Notebook", and her website (here).  Just reading her story about her journey to actually create this planner was so inspirational to me, I have decided to buy more planners for my friends.  I am so happy to be able to support this sister, Arionne Alyssa Nettles, in her endeavors, and I am too excited about the work I have to do to achieve my dreams this year. This planner serves as a stand-in for that one friend that tells it to you like it is!  Who doesn't need that, even if you don't want it?

In purchasing this planner, I am already one-step closer to achieving some my 2016  goals: 
  1. patronize more Black entrepreneurs; 
  2. buy from women; 
  3. shop small;
  4. use Girls of Plenty as a platform to showcase inspirational women 
In order to get your planner, go to the Etsy Site and get yours.  You will love it.  Now get to achieving!


Be seen...

Every woman wants to be noticed.  Every woman wants to be desired. Every woman wants to be loved. But we have to love ourselves first. Being a big woman my entire life, I decided as a teenager never to apologize for my size. That meant loving myself, despite my weight. That meant, never allowing people to treat me as a second-class citizen. That meant, never allowing stereotypes of fat people to define my existence. That meant, finally, never allowing myself to fade into the background.  Whether that be having the crudest, foulest, loudest mouth in the room, asserting my intelligence and acknowledging my smart, or allowing my sexy to show itself subtly, I am not afraid to be noticed.  Again, as I move closer and closer to 40, my don't give a damn attitude seems to be showcasing herself even more.  I never thought that I could be more confident, self-assured, conceited (lol), and assertive than I have been in the past, but I am truly feeling myself.  And no... I won't apologize for that.

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